More Than Words: What Insects, Picture Books, and Parenting Have in Common

Creative Perspectives on Developmental Disorders

Developmental disorders can deeply affect communication and social interaction, often creating invisible barriers for those who experience them. One touching story comes from Rintaro Uchida, an 84-year-old picture book author. In an interview with AERA magazine, he shared the inspiration behind his new work, Anone Anone.

The book gently follows a group of insects—pillbugs, grasshoppers, and others—trying to express gratitude to an ant who helped them, but struggling to do so. Beneath the surface, it reflects Uchida’s thoughts about children who find it difficult to express their feelings.

So why did he write such a story? Uchida has a grandson, now 30, who lives with a developmental disorder. From a young age, his grandson found social interaction difficult. In elementary school, he often hid in the bathroom to avoid overwhelming situations. The world, to him, felt distant and confusing.

A Gentle Kind of Support

What makes Uchida’s story so memorable is how his family approached these challenges. Instead of trying to “fix” him, they gave him space to grow in his own time. Uchida believed in letting life unfold naturally, even with its struggles. “As long as you have the minimum strength to endure them, and there are people who will embrace you, you can survive,” he said. His words offer a gentle reminder that setbacks are part of life—and with love and patience, resilience can take root.

My Own Reflection

Uchida’s story hits close to home for me. I supported someone in a similar situation for five years. I tried everything I could to help, preparing her favorite meals and listening to her lament all night, often at the cost of my own wellbeing. Nothing seemed to work—until I stopped trying so hard. To my surprise, that’s when she began to show her own strength.

Looking back, I realize that while I loved her deeply, I hadn’t truly respected her individual journey. Support doesn’t always mean doing more—it can mean accepting more. Professional help can be valuable, but so can stepping back and letting someone grow in their own way.

Stories That Heal

When you share a picture book or any creative work with your child, take a moment to consider the heart behind it. Many authors, like Uchida, are inspired by personal experiences—often related to emotional or mental health challenges. These stories can nourish not just your child’s curiosity, but your own understanding too. You never know whose heart might be quietly healing as they read. I truly believe that parenting, done with care and presence, is one of the most beautiful creative acts. As a musical composer, I often find myself wishing I could create something as meaningful as that kind of love in action.

Connection, compassion, and acceptance—these are the true tools for navigating the hard times. We all carry more strength than we think.