Lessons from Japanese Fashion Designer on Family Meals

Introduction to Hanae Mori's Philosophy

In the fast-paced world of motherhood, balancing work, family, and personal interests can feel daunting. The late Japanese fashion designer, world famous Hanae Mori, shared her insights on this balancing act in her book Tomorrow’s Design, revealing practical tips that resonate with busy moms. One of her most memorable pieces of advice was her approach to meals. Traveling through a similar journey, I found her experiences incredibly relatable.

The Truth About Eating Out

Hanae Mori expressed that, as a busy working mom, she often relied on dining out with her family 3-4 times a week. This resonated with me; during my daughter's early years, I found myself eating out 2-3 times a week. While I always had an inclination toward cooking at home, the pressures of work and parenting left little time for elaborate home-cooked meals. It was easy to feel guilty about not being the quintessential 'homely mom' every day. But reflecting on my daughter’s memories brings a fresh perspective.

Lessons Learned: It's About the Memories

One day, as my daughter transitioned into adulthood, she shared her fond recollections of our dining experiences together. "I have a lot of joyful memories because we ate out frequently," she said. These words struck a chord within me. Instead of worrying about how often we eat out, I realized that the quality of our time together mattered far more. This sparked a gentle reminder: we should not allow guilt to overshadow the joy of being present with our loved ones.

Redefining What Makes a Good Mom

In today’s world, being a good mom often comes with self-imposed pressures to cook daily and create a perfect home environment. However, Hanae Mori's example illustrates that embracing convenience does not equate to failure. It is essential to prioritize our well-being, too. Choosing healthier options when eating out is vital, but indulging in delicious food can spark joy, especially after a long day. Let’s forget the pressures and allow ourselves the freedom to enjoy meals together, whether at home or out.

Togetherness Over Perfection

Ultimately, the essence of motherhood lies in the memories we create with our children. Rather than dwelling on the idea of being the ideal mom, focus on making every moment enjoyable. Dining out offers a break from routine, sparking joy and conversation. So, next time the choice is between cooking or dining out, remember the importance of togetherness. It’s this cohesion, nourished by joyful experiences, that will foster lasting memories.